There is no simple answer to this. Different people will find different situations difficult; and different people will find different ways of coping with them. The important thing is that you have a way of coping with situations with which you are comfortable. This can take time to find and may need a bit of practice. Everybody makes mistakes in difficult situations; donít give yourself a hard time if you feel you didnít handle a situation very well.
If, for example, someone asks you why you donít have any hair, you could try:
Explaining 'I have alopecia, itís a condition which makes your hair fall out.' Reassuring 'Youíve noticed my alopecia, donít worry you canít catch it!'
Changing the subject 'Itís just how I am, did you hear about that story in the news?
Making a joke 'Itís just the way I look. It makes me easier to spot in photos!' (Try to smile and look relaxed.)
In response to 'Whatís wrong with you?', you could try:
'Please donít ask me to explain'
'Why do you want to know?'
'Thatís not an appropriate question'.
In response to staring, you could try:
'Please stop staring'
'Can I help you?'
'Your staring isn't helpful'
or stare right back with a smile!
These are quite direct, but completely acceptable responses. When the question was blunt Ė the answers were too.